Friday, June 22, 2012

There are introverts and extroverts and people all up and down this spectrum. I am an introvert according to the Myers-Briggs test. You may think that means I don’t like people, but I really do. I think people are mostly like me, and most of you probably think the same way. How boring would THAT be? Gotta work on that. In fact, some of my favorite people are extreme extroverts until they…well, not going there in case you find yourself in one of my “irritating” categories! In my experience, we can learn from each other. We learn by communicating, but that’s hard to do when an introvert is afraid to be seen as pushy, and an extrovert is being a bulldozer…good way to make a mountain out of a molehill! Every emotionally and mentally healthy person wants to have a better life. Some even want to make the lives of others better. So how do we communicate in order to help ourselves and others out and accomplish some things? This post was prompted by someone on a Social Networking site wanting to know some convincing come-backs for those who get stuck on blaming. This takes place much more than it should between intelligent adults with serious concerns in many arenas of life. It’s one thing to remind someone of history, and another to stay stuck there. Regardless of intro- or extraversion, everyone please visit here first THE BLAME DUMP: Go ahead, get it all out. It's not going to make anything better. Only save what you need for later to make any point before offering your solution. Ahhhh. That feels better, doesn't it? Now, if you’re the introvert, here are some suggestions. Before or the minute a discussion starts, ask permission, or agree to discuss within guidelines. If you’re the extrovert, remember to speak little and listen much (why God gave us two ears and one mouth?). Don’t take this personally, afterall, whatever you’re discussing is important to you and those you love, right? And we’re trying to find solutions! For everyone - No namecalling with only one foul allowed. Namecaller must apologize. One foul allowed for blaming. Call FOUL when necessary! Hear them out and if there's truth, say, "That may be true. Now let's discuss your solution." If there’s more than one person in the discussion, don’t leave the refereeing to someone else. BE the facilitator when necessary – FACILITATE discussion! ...and now - DISCUSS in comments! P.S. Any friends who've told me you joined here, I can't see some of you. Please try again? And welcome to all newbies! <3

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